My day was not so bad, however, I know someone who has had a bad day, and this is not the first. I have been there. I have worked through periods in my life when I thought I would never make it to the other side. I can't be sure, but I think that now I have learned something.I had a response to Jane’s request. Here is what I shared:
What I've learned is this:
If you stick it out, it will get better. But you have to have a goal. The goal helps you make it through those tough days. If the goal doesn't satisfy, here are a couple more tricks to try. I always have a friend whose office I can just go to and vent. Someone that I trust to keep confidences and just listen; someone who will not judge. Keep in mind, you owe them the same courtesy later.
Next, if the venting doesn't help, and the stress gets worse, do not be afraid to find someone professional to talk to. Many friends I know have actually had a physical problem which was causing the stress to be unbearable, but they may not have even realized it. Medical professionals can be very good friends. They're there for a reason. Use them.
Sick days exist for a reason. Don't take advantage, but if you find yourself crashing every night at 8pm; you are exhausted at work; and you feel like you can't drag yourself through another day, perhaps you should take an unexpected "you day." It's not a lie to say you're sick if you are, in fact, experiencing failure to function.
Finally, reward yourself. If you work hard for a month, you get a project done, perhaps you could take a colleague out to coffee one morning and talk about life. There's no rule that work can only be at the desk typing out answers to the thousands of emails we all receive. At some point networking and morale building should play into everyone's idea of work. Take time to recharge so that your work is more productive!
Please add your own tips in the comments section. I'd love to know how you deal with work stress. I've got a friend that could use some ideas.
Friday, March 22, 2013
Ever Feel Like Your Rope Could Break? My Friend Offers Advice
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